Motherhood and beauty can be a big topic and likely one I will continue to write about. Sometimes these two things can be hard for people to correlate together. The idea that once you become a mother, that somehow the beauty of who you are is thrown out the window. Suddenly your whole world revolves around your children and what makes you who you are starts to fade. As a mother, you would sacrifice everything you have to make sure your family is taken care of. In addition, you constantly worry about your kids health and well-being around the clock.
Through my personal experience, each child I had made it harder to retain who I was and make time for myself. I felt guilty for even wanting to spend just a few moments away from my kids. My kids are my world, but I was going through times where I was feeling completely drained. I went from wearing make-up every day and picking out cute outfits, to just throwing on something comfortable and making sure that my face had been washed. The more energy I poured into my children, the more I felt like I was failing as a mother. I was tired and had days where I was easily irritable. My husband would tell me that he would need alone time and I would be annoyed that he requested this.
After awhile, I began to realize that my husband’s alone time made him a better dad. It allowed him time to refresh and ready to handle whatever struggles came his way. I knew that I needed to start taking time for myself in order to be the best mother that I could be. I knew I wouldn’t always be able to get away from the house, I realized that taking even 15 minutes to re-charge was important. I knew I wanted to feel confident about myself, so I could demonstrate this to my kids. I began to wear make-up once more, even though I still don’t wear it daily. I take time to go grocery shopping by myself or organize a time to go see a movie while my husband watches the kids. Because I have started to this, I have felt more like my old self and have increased patience with my kids. I feel beautiful. Motherhood feels beautiful.
Please keep in mind, I am not perfect and these are things that I struggle with on a daily basis. This is a big topic and I will likely expand on this topic in a later post. Feel free to comment on ways that you struggle with motherhood and beauty. I want to make this blog to be a safe space for us to discuss our wins and our struggles. Please comment about how you have grown through your journey in motherhood.